As I look back on that experience, it taught me a valuable lesson that Stephen Covey put so well: Seek First To Understand
, Then To Be Understood.
Covey made so elegantly in his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: "Seek first to understand
and only then to be understood." I also pressed the point that we need to understand the language that policy makers speak and then talk to them in their language, not ours, if we have any hope of them hearing us.
Steven Covey (Habit 5): seek first to understand
, then to be understood.
Two of the fundamental principles of communication are "true communication is the response you get", and "seek first to understand
, then be understood".
They know how to, in Stephen Covey's terms, from his book on The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, be proactive, begin with the end in mind, put first things first, seek first to understand
and then be understood, think "win-win", synergize and they know how to "sharpen the saw" and nurture the spirit.
Covey's Habit 5 is "Seek first to understand
, then to be understood." Communication is the most important skill in life, says Covey, and while we spend years learning how to read and write, and years learning how to speak, what training do we get that enables us to listen so that we truly understand another human being?
He said dialogue participants must unlearn in order to learn; brace themselves for some levels of pain; seek first to understand
; recognize the sanctity and power of language; and focus on truth.
Cobler said he is eager to make changes to the newsroom, but plans to "honor the work that's gone on and everything that's been done here and seek first to understand
before trying to be understood."
'My mission is to seek first to understand
before I wish to be understood.
Seek first to understand
, then to be understood That reminder to listen is just one habit helping Perkins and many others at Metro Nashville schools to lead more effective and fulfilling lives--both on and off the job.
Habit 5: seek first to understand
, then to be understood
One of the almost mantra-like phrases used in Collaborative Family Law training is "seek first to understand
, then to be understood".